the superior self Paradox

I coined a term: The Superior Self Paradox
A state in which a person achieves true moral or psychological superiority by relinquishing any belief in their superiority over others. It is the recognition that genuine evolution of the self arises from humility, empathy, and non judgment. In less clinical terms, a person can only believe they live a superior life to others, the moment they truly believe there is no way to live a superior life to someone else. I thought about this term a lot, and it’s one of the more important things I realized while getting my masters and training to become a therapist. In order to be an effective therapist, we have to forget our own beliefs about what is “normal,” and fight against this idea that there is a “correct” way to live a life. Because the truth is, no one is allowed to tell you how to live your life. We are trained to practice cultural humility, and understand that so much of our behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs are shaped by our culture and multiple identities. We couldn’t possibly begin to tell someone what they do isn’t normal, because in their world, it may be. Our normal, is nowhere near someone else’s normal. We all live different lives. We all have multiple, different, identities. And we are all allowed to take advantage of our own free will. If how you live your life is a reflection of you being your authentic self, and you aren’t harming another person, you get to choose how your life is lived. Fuck the people who think they can tell you how to live your life. I think it may be the humanist in me, but the people who judge another person for how they live their life, remain locked in a spiritual place, where they cannot ascend to a more evolved way of living and thinking. They allow others freedom and autonomy to impact their life, and therefore remain stuck in a place where they cannot truly be themselves because they still allow the way someone else lives their life to affect them. Once I reached this place where I no longer cared about how someone perceives the way I choose to live MY life, I fell in love with life. I lowkey hate going to sleep now, because I want to stay awake all the time. I love living. I was trapped in a place where I judged people for how they lived their life. And because of this, I wasn’t doing things I wanted to do, because I thought I was gonna get judged for it. All that changed from the psycho education I received in my graduate program. I realized, we’re all normal. Everything we do is normal. Not saying there aren’t things that aren’t maladaptive, or causing harm, but it is normal. The reason therapy exists is to allow people to recognize that they’re normal. And with conscious effort, access their free will to change things that are causing harm to themselves and others.